Teen Girls Kissing
I wrote a couple of weeks ago about the kind of kissing teen girls are dreaming of.
And last week a publicist sends me several books to review.
The first is a new book put out by FaithWords (Used to be Warner Faith, now owned by Hachette). It’s called it’s all about us.
Lovely title, that, and it is an accurate one. Put it together with the cover shot–the bodies of three teen girls in short skirts and high heels–and you pretty much know what you’re going to get in the book.
I’ll write much more about this book later–it’s very well written and I’m not writing this to slam it. I haven’t finished it yet, and I still have high hopes that it will redeem itself in the end, but today I want to just speak to the kissing issue. Here’s the scene of the protagonist’s first kiss with the unbelieving hottie she’s in love with. The chapter starts with a quote from the Bible–”Love is patient, love is kind,” and then it warps that to say that love is what makes you oblivious to danger because all you can think about is this guy holding your hand. Well, that’s not love, of course, that’s temptation. But let’s move on to the kiss:
He smelled of clean cotton and warm skin and a faint trace of cologne. Talk about a dream come true. Bottle that scent for late-night fantasies, girls.
My eyes slid closed as his mouth found mine. Oh, that mouth. It came through on everything his grin had been promising for days. Soft yet firm, and nothing hesitant about it. I’m no newbie in the kissing department, but a first kiss usually asks permission. Waits. Backs off before I’m ready.
Not this one. Somehow he knew what to do to make my toes curl for real, to make my blood speed up in my veins, and to send my body temperature rocketing up.
By the end of the kiss, I was a watery puddle with steam rising off it, let me tell you.
This late-night fantasy deal is brought out again later–this girl likes to fantasize. And she likes to kiss. And she likes hot kisses.
And, the thing is, she’s just like most girls.
These are the kinds of kisses that the girls I know are hoping for. And these are the kinds of kisses they see nothing wrong with. They think they can, like this girl, become experienced in the kissing department and no damage is done to them. They think they can fantasize at night about the hottie, even if he’s not a Christian, and they’re obeying God because they aren’t having sex before marriage.
This fantasizing is idolatry, of course. And we’re all guilty of that. We all have things we like better than Christ. I’m not condemning the girls. I’m just wondering why so many Christian parents seem to be OK with this idol. We can’t get rid of the idols in their hearts, I know that. If they are going to fantasize, there is no way for us to stop them. But should we encourage them to go even farther in their sin? Should we pretend that kissing is fine? Should we allow our little bundles of raging hormones and lust to be alone with members of the opposite sex? Yikes! What’s up with that? Why would we even think of allowing two teens who are madly in love with one another to go out alone together? I can’t understand the reasoning for such a thing.
May 22nd, 2008 at 11:12 am
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May 22nd, 2008 at 2:23 pm
He smelled of clean cotton and warm skin and a faint trace of cologne. There’s the first clue this was written by an adult who maybe isn’t around teens so much. Or maybe this boy is older—late teens perhaps. ‘Cause every teen boy I know who uses cologne has no idea of what the word “trace” means!
“Drenched” maybe, or “doused.” More than likely, if this was true to life, the kiss would have been very brief, since the girl would have had a hard time breathing what with the fumes engulfing them both. 
OK, seriously, your point is well taken, especially in today’s society that basically thrusts sex into the faces of teens, hands them condoms, and says, Of course you can’t help yourself.
That’s like starving a woman, then putting her in a room with chocolate on every shelf and saying, We understand you can’t help but indulge. Well, DUH!
So, we’re not going to change society. They won’t be taking the sexy shows off TV any time soon, or making only G-rated movies. They aren’t going to stop putting live models in underwear and parading them in front of cameras and down runways. Laws aren’t going to be passed to eliminate porn sites on the internet, and on and one and on.
It seems the only way to deal with this is one child at a time. And why don’t parents see the problem? You got me! Do they not see the problem of porn addiction? Of sex outside of marriage? Are they unaware of the scars, the baggage? There are some really good books out on the subject. What was that Atlanta author I mentioned a week or so ago? She’s a speaker, too. May more rise to the calling to let teens and their parents know what’s what.
Becky